Ok so there is no doubt that the viral craze of #treeoflife pictures swimming around Instagram are beautiful. If you haven’t seen them, they show stunning artwork of mothers and babies bonding through a very natural thing, with trees connecting mother and baby through breastfeeding. However, in some people’s eyes, they are another example of how non breastfeeding mum’s are feeling guilt and shame. Hashtags like #breastisbest don’t help the matter! Does that mean that formula feeding mums don’t give their babies life and don’t have a bond with their baby?  Of course not!

From what I can gather, it started to support the #normalisebreastfeeding cause that many breastfeeding groups try hard to advocate. This always surprises me though, as honestly from my standpoint it is a totally normal part of life, to the point where formula feeding mums are made to feel inadequate by health professionals, the media and the breastfeeding army. Let me get one thing straight, when I use the term breastfeeding army, it’s not all breastfeeding mums, it’s the group of keyboard warriors who have their view and will not be tolerant or understanding of others. I respect all mums as, let’s face it, what ever choice we make we get criticised for it but I have an issue with those who purposely set out to make others feel bad. All of the breastfeeding mums I know would hate to think they’d upset or shamed anyone. They agree that however you feed your baby, as long as they are happy, it doesn’t matter. But not all breastfeeding advocates have the same compassion. I think it’s lovely that mums who breastfeed can share something so beautiful and feel empowered by it, but it’s the message it spreads to others that makes me wary of the craze.

Yes breast milk is amazing for babies but not everyone can feed this way. The argument that it’s natural and been around since the dawn of time is valid but historically babies would have died due to feeding issues without a wet nurse or formula. Society and medicine has moved on to allow healthy happy babies whatever the feeding situation!

I have fed Little every which way because she was born too early to feed orally. She was tube fed until she was ready to attempt oral feeding. We attempted breast feeding and fed bottled expressed breast milk and eventually formula. The one she had the most trouble and upset with was breast. So no breastfeeding is not best for every mum and baby. Fed is best and it always will be!

Formula feeding and still we have a connection and bond

What Little thinks to those who shame people for their choice of feeding

Back in the early days when she would take the breast

The oversupply of expressed breast milk I brought home from the hospital. I was a milking machine!

Big feeding a very tiny Little my ebm while we were still in hospital

Little with her NGT (nasal gastric tube) that she loved to pull out!

I have already seen some beautiful bottle feeding tree of life art work. I’m glad these have popped up as they show that no matter how your baby is fed, you still have a bond and give them life. I’d considered doing one from when I could breastfeed, then thought I could do a bottle feeding one, but then realised I actually don’t want to do one at all. Yes they are beautiful pieces of art, but my feeding journey can’t be summed up in a picture like that.

It is lovely to see the pictures, but before posting, consider the hashtags used and the wording of your post. Just because you breast feed or formula feed, doesn’t mean that it is best. We all need to support each other. Always remember #fedisbest

Have you made one of these pictures – either bottle or breast? If so did you consider the impact on others? Should we even have to consider it, or is it simply people being over sensitive? If you don’t breastfeed, how do the pictures make you feel?

I’m interested in open discussions on this but if you comment please be mindful that everyone is entitled to their own views. 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

As any new mum will know, lack of sleep is a killer. Ok, so when I was pregnant I knew that once Little arrived I wouldn’t get much sleep, but I didn’t know just how much sleep I’d lose! 

In the 9 months since Little was born, she must have slept through (and by that I mean 10-5 with a bit of moaning and wriggling in between) for a total of 10 days! This was back when she was about 6 months old and since then we’ve had constant wake ups and 1-2 night feeds to contend with. The last few weeks have felt like we’ve had a newborn again and I’ve really felt like I’ve been cracking up through lack of sleep! 

I’m due to go back to work in January and dreading it (though for more reasons than sleep but that’s another story) and I’ve been so worried about how I’ll function on such little sleep.

We’ve tried everything; white noise, night light/no night light, increased feeds, teething gel/powder/liquid, and every other thing people suggest to us. But our child just does not like to sleep! 

If one more person says to me “sleep when she sleeps” I might scream. I get it, and in the early days I did, but when a baby who doesn’t sleep at night refuses to nap in the day for more than 10 mins in my arms, when do I sleep? And if she does nap for longer and I manage to get her napping in the cot, which we’ve had a few times recently, then I really need to clean, cook, so washing and all those other things that adults do! 

But here’s the miracle. Last night she slept through! Ok, so technically she did wake for a feed at 12am but then she slept until 6.A.M!! No 3am trek in the dark to try and soothe her back to sleep, bumping in to the banister because I’m so tired. No return trip at 3.30am and 4am and then sleeping with her for a bit to try and settle her. No 5.30am wake up because I just give up trying to get her off to sleep again. Hallelujah! It’s a Christmas miracle.

It’s amazing what a bit of sleep does. She happily played in her cot for 30 mins after she woke and I got a shower and washed my hair. We came down, had a bottle and a play and then I cooked myself some breakfast, poached egg on toast, and we’ve been out for a walk. I actually feel so much better and like I can get things achieved today.



What did we do differently? Nothing much, although due to her cold we put a bowl of hot water in the room and a calpol plug in. She also had 6oz of milk instead of the usual 5oz. Yesterday she had two really long naps. Does sleep breed sleep? Does a scented room help her sleep? Who knows but I’ll be doing the same tonight. I know it might be a fluke but I’m praying that I get a nice interrupted snooze tonight too.

What helps your little one sleep? If you’re struggling though lack of sleep, what helps you get through the day? 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

When you’re an adult, Christmas starts to lose its appeal a bit. Well that is unless you have parents that still insist on checking if Santa has been, leaving out stockings and having a mass early morning present opening!
Our Christmas tradition continued right up until last year! A 30, 29 and 25 year old all up early, checking our stockings and following our parents down to see if “he’d been.” Seriously ridiculous but we loved it every year, well my brother not so much but that is because for the past few years he’s usually been majorly hungover! 

This year will be different because we get to start a new Christmas tradition. 

Plans

Ok, so Little may only be 9 months but it will still be a special day as it’s the first year we get to have a Christmas morning of just Little, Big and Me. We plan on waking up as a family of 3, opening up our presents and having something special for breakfast, although not sure what our Christmas morning brekkie will be yet. 

I’m not going to lie, I’m sad that I don’t get to spend the morning with my parents and siblings. To do the silly traditions that we’ve always done, but once we’ve opened up the presents here we’ll be off to start a new tradition at the grandparents too. We’ll take Little to open her presents at my parents house and have our dinner there. At 31 I still don’t feel grown up enough to cook the dinner! 

Presents

I didn’t, I mean Santa didn’t, want to spend too much on presents for Little this year as she won’t remember it and doesn’t really need anything. I thought about things we’d probably buy her in the future and toys that she’d grow in to. I went with some lovely wooden toys for her. 

All of this for £17.50 in the Sainsburys toy sale!

And then some lovely little extras, including some books, a puzzle and this beautiful little start to her Emma Bridgewater collection. 


But for me it was the little touches I wanted to invest in that we’d use for years to come to build our own traditions. 

I’ve ordered these tags to use to leave treats for Santa, can’t wait for them to arrive! 

I bought a beautiful personalised Santa sack to put her presents in. My brother has also bought her a similar one so we’ve got more room once the presents start getting bigger! 

Night night folks x

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And I’ve ordered some lovely personalised decorations too. One from handcraftedlove and another from elviesworkshop. Can’t wait to get the tree up and get them hanging pride of place. 

What are your plans for Christmas? Do you have traditions that you’ve started since having your little one? 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

 

I posted a while ago about wanting to be more adventurous with weaning. I think with her being born early, I’ve been playing it safe!

I have given Little lots more finger foods since then, including some yummy aubergine pizzas!

During the days I have two modes:

Mode 1) Run around like an absolute mad woman getting jobs done in the fleeting moments when Little is entertaining herself or napping.

Mode 2) Sit on the sofa too knackered to do anything except scroll through Instagram and half watch crappy day time TV while cuddling Little and keeping her entertained!

I’m not going to lie, usually mode 2 wins out but recently I’ve been trying to get more in to mode 1! So, while Little entertained herself in the jumperoo, I cooked up some egg muffins for her dinner recently.

Egg Muffin Recipe

I used:

{ 7 eggs / 3 large spoons of cottage cheese / handful of chopped broccoli }

You can chuck in any veggies you like. I think I’ll use a bit of spinach if I make them again.

 

How to make them:

These are so easy to make as you just chuck everything in a bowl and mix them up. You then pour the mixture in silicone muffin trays (I used two trays of 6) and put in an oven at 180• for 15-20 minutes. Job done!

I told you they were easy!

 


I cut them in half and served with a few crisps and mango sticks and she loved them. There are plenty left for the fridge but they are so moorish I don’t know how long they’ll last!

 

Let me know what you would add in them and how yours turned out if you give them a go.

Little Big Love

Becky xx

My name is Becky and I’m an Instagram Addict!

Although I only started Little, Big and Me recently, I have blogged for a couple of years. I have always been a very occasional blogger and have tended to pick it up and put it down as I felt motivated. But, the one thing I’ve always kept up with is Instagram.

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I spend far too much time scrolling through people’s pages, liking and commenting on photos and replying to comments on my photos. I find I can get lost in those little squares sometimes and  I have my phone in my hand more than I should some days! Although its not all bad, Instagram is a form of social media that I find really positive (most of the time!)

There is a fantastic community of people on there who share stories, experiences and their lives. I first met an amazing community of women who were going through fertility issues. I was able to share my diary of my fertility treatment with a group of people who really understood. The support was invaluable, especially when people around me in ‘real life’ couldn’t understand. Many of those on the fertility journey have now become part of this fantastic community of parents that exists in Instagram too. Again it has become a place to discuss all things mum and see snapshots of life from some beautiful babies as they grow and develop.

I love to share parts of daily life and the fact that its so instant really helps. Unlike blog posts that need writing, editing, and links adding, among other things. I also really enjoy the comments and likes (I’m a bit of a like whore) from such a wide range of people. It enables conversations to open with people around the world, and closer to home too.

I’m lucky enough that I’ve actually met some lovely people through Instagram that I would call my friends. I’ve been able to connect with people in real life, through friendships made in squares of photos online!

So yes I’m an Instagram Addict, but it’s had a great affect on my life so far.

Here are some of my favourite Instgram photos I’ve posted:

 

 

As you can see, there is a bit of a theme! Well it is all about Little, Big and Me after all!

What is your Instagram username? Come follow me and give me a comment on a picture you enjoy.

Little Big Love

Becky xx