Well hello there! I thought I’d write a post to review my progress of my goals for 2017 so far.

This is going to be a quick post as basically I have done a big fat nothing! Although I suppose my goals are for the whole year so I shouldn’t beat myself up too much…right?!


As you’ll see from the blog, putting more time in to it and going self hosted hasn’t happened as I managed a grand total of ZERO blog posts over January…ooops!

January 3rd saw the end of my maternity leave and my return to work. I was really apprehensive about going back and how I would manage but it hasn’t been as bad as I feared. Little loves it at the childminder’s and with my parents (she splits her day between these when I’m at work), which makes me feel more comfortable leaving her. While I have really enjoyed some of the things I’ve been working on and being back with the kids in school, I have struggled to juggle mum stuff, housework, work I’ve been bringing home and the blog and social media accounts.

Getting Out More

Getting out and about has also been a big fat fail. I am running a 10k in April and thought that training would help me get out but I’ve managed 1 run so far! We’ve not planned any days out yet. I think I need to be a bit more proactive there!


Sort out the house

Sorting stuff out around the house has been slow, but we have thrown away some things and tidied a few cupboards and draws. I’ve been obsessed with watching organisation and minimalist videos on YouTube recently. While these are great motivation, I find I then get distracted doing something else and then the motivation crawls to the corner of the room and dies! I find that when I do get a bit of spare time all I want to do is sit down and do not a lot as I’m so knackered! Little still isn’t sleeping through every night, although she has got better, which just makes the days so much harder!

Hopefully my February update will be jam packed with all I’ve achieved in my quest to get my shit together! Or not. We’ll see.

How do you get motivated when you really can’t be bothered? Any tips let me know below!

Little Big Love

Becky xx

I’ve recently been thinking about setting some goals for the new year. I don’t go in for this ‘new year, new me’ stuff as, let’s face it, you are who you are, but there are things I want to achieve in the new year to make life that bit easier and feel that bit better.

After reading a fab post from MummytoDex, I decided to write my own, though rather than just blog goals I thought I’d look at goals for life overall.

2016 was a year of highs and lows. Births, marriages, big operations and sadly losing someone close too. It was a year where I have cried and laughed in equal measure. Been happier than I thought possible and more terrified than ever before. It’s a year that I will be glad to see the back of, but remember more fondly than any other.

After a rollercoaster year I’ve decided that 2017 is the year of getting my shit together! I say it every year but this year I am so fed up of saying and not doing. I need to change and I also need to give Big a kick up the arse too as he needs to get his act together at times! He is half teenage boy and half amazing Dad and I feel a bit too much like a nagging Mum with him sometimes!

My 2017 Goals

1. Sort out the house

We were lucky enough to buy a lovely new house this year. We’ve made it our home but I often look around and see piles of crap everywhere (apart from in the nice tidy corners I take photos of!) I need to get more organised in keeping everything tidy and clean. I’ve decided I’m going to have a regular cleaning schedule and have been looking at Pinterest for some ideas. I’m going to be trying to be more minimalist, something which I started to think more about after watching AmyBeingMum’s video on the subject, and get rid of things I keep ‘just in case’. Going back to work and keeping the house tidy will be a challenge but I hope that by having a tidier house it will help keep my mind tidy and less anxious.

My mum bought me this book for Christmas – do you think she was trying to tell me something?

2. Get out more

Sometimes I feel like I spend my life indoors. We go out and see people but we always go to their houses or meet in coffee shops, we go to baby groups but these are always inside and when I do go out for walks they always seem to be short trips to the shop. I sometimes get a bit of cabin fever and often think Little does too, which is why we have some tough days with her. With going back to work.

Last year Big bought me an English Heritage membership (it should have been National Trust but that’s another story!) and do you know how many times we used it? A big fat zero! Not only is it a huge waste of money but shows how little we get out and do things together. As little grows I want us to go on adventures as a family and 2017 is going to be the start of it.

3. Sort out our diet

To look at Big and I, you wouldn’t think we were particularly unhealthy, but we eat a lot of bad food! Friday is usually referred to as Chinese Friday as we tend to have a take away. Before Little we’d have more than one take away a week to be honest. We’ve been better since, mainly thanks to my Mum cooking us meals and me planning occasionally, but next year I’m going to meal plan every week and shop more carefully.

4. The Blog

In the tag line for most of my social media I mention the fact that I am an occasional blogger. I want to take the blog more seriously in the new year. The plan is to go self hosted, redesign to look of the blog, blog at least once a week, make more links with brands I love and increase my readers through interesting, more carefully planned content. I am also toying with the idea of trying my hand with some vlogs, but we’ll have to see if I’m brave enough!

So there you have it. The 4 main goals I’ve got to help me get it together in 2017.

I hope that this time next year I’ll be able to look back and know I’ve worked hard to achieve them. I hope I’ll be in a better place and feeling less ‘mess’ and more like a proper grown up (if there is such a thing!)

What are your goals for the new year? How do you plan on achieving them? 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

First night out post baby…done!

When Big said his work do would include an all expenses hotel stay and meal, I thought Christmas had come early. I love my girl but a night away wth some sleep is my idea of heaven.

We have left her overnight once since she was born to go to a spa, but I haven’t been on a proper night out so I was looking forward to having a bit of fun.

Little decided to come over all poorly that morning, so I was worried we’d not be able to go. After some Calpol, cuddles, milk and plenty of water she perked up and I felt much better about leaving her for a sleepover with Grandma, Grandad and Auntie S.


The night

We got to our hotel and found one of those fancy towel sculpture things on the bed.

All I could think was that it looked very phallic. Something which Big helped to demonstrate!

We were treated to drinks in the hotel then went off to a restaurant for a meal. The meal was at 9pm and I felt like a granny thinking that it was far too late to eat, because let’s face it I’m usually in bed by then!

I don’t do well with too much to drink and usually end up with hangovers from hell, so I was determined to be sensible.  Wine and cocktails were mixed, but I had lots of water too so managed to wake up hangover free. I can’t say the same for Big who is currently snoring next to me!

Feeling very tired, I left him in the hotel bar and disappeared off to bed before midnight like Cinderella.

It was a lovely night, being Becky and not Mum. I got to have adult conversation, though granted plenty of it was kid related, and we had fun as husband and wife.

It made me realise how important it is for us to get out together and get out of the baby bubble. I’ll definitely be making sure we plan more nights out next year, though not too many as we’re not in our 20’s any more! It also made me realise the importance of water – drink lots of it, it’s magic stuff!

Do you plan date nights? How often do you find yourself getting out child free? 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

Ok so there is no doubt that the viral craze of #treeoflife pictures swimming around Instagram are beautiful. If you haven’t seen them, they show stunning artwork of mothers and babies bonding through a very natural thing, with trees connecting mother and baby through breastfeeding. However, in some people’s eyes, they are another example of how non breastfeeding mum’s are feeling guilt and shame. Hashtags like #breastisbest don’t help the matter! Does that mean that formula feeding mums don’t give their babies life and don’t have a bond with their baby?  Of course not!

From what I can gather, it started to support the #normalisebreastfeeding cause that many breastfeeding groups try hard to advocate. This always surprises me though, as honestly from my standpoint it is a totally normal part of life, to the point where formula feeding mums are made to feel inadequate by health professionals, the media and the breastfeeding army. Let me get one thing straight, when I use the term breastfeeding army, it’s not all breastfeeding mums, it’s the group of keyboard warriors who have their view and will not be tolerant or understanding of others. I respect all mums as, let’s face it, what ever choice we make we get criticised for it but I have an issue with those who purposely set out to make others feel bad. All of the breastfeeding mums I know would hate to think they’d upset or shamed anyone. They agree that however you feed your baby, as long as they are happy, it doesn’t matter. But not all breastfeeding advocates have the same compassion. I think it’s lovely that mums who breastfeed can share something so beautiful and feel empowered by it, but it’s the message it spreads to others that makes me wary of the craze.

Yes breast milk is amazing for babies but not everyone can feed this way. The argument that it’s natural and been around since the dawn of time is valid but historically babies would have died due to feeding issues without a wet nurse or formula. Society and medicine has moved on to allow healthy happy babies whatever the feeding situation!

I have fed Little every which way because she was born too early to feed orally. She was tube fed until she was ready to attempt oral feeding. We attempted breast feeding and fed bottled expressed breast milk and eventually formula. The one she had the most trouble and upset with was breast. So no breastfeeding is not best for every mum and baby. Fed is best and it always will be!

Formula feeding and still we have a connection and bond

What Little thinks to those who shame people for their choice of feeding

Back in the early days when she would take the breast

The oversupply of expressed breast milk I brought home from the hospital. I was a milking machine!

Big feeding a very tiny Little my ebm while we were still in hospital

Little with her NGT (nasal gastric tube) that she loved to pull out!

I have already seen some beautiful bottle feeding tree of life art work. I’m glad these have popped up as they show that no matter how your baby is fed, you still have a bond and give them life. I’d considered doing one from when I could breastfeed, then thought I could do a bottle feeding one, but then realised I actually don’t want to do one at all. Yes they are beautiful pieces of art, but my feeding journey can’t be summed up in a picture like that.

It is lovely to see the pictures, but before posting, consider the hashtags used and the wording of your post. Just because you breast feed or formula feed, doesn’t mean that it is best. We all need to support each other. Always remember #fedisbest

Have you made one of these pictures – either bottle or breast? If so did you consider the impact on others? Should we even have to consider it, or is it simply people being over sensitive? If you don’t breastfeed, how do the pictures make you feel?

I’m interested in open discussions on this but if you comment please be mindful that everyone is entitled to their own views. 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

As any new mum will know, lack of sleep is a killer. Ok, so when I was pregnant I knew that once Little arrived I wouldn’t get much sleep, but I didn’t know just how much sleep I’d lose! 

In the 9 months since Little was born, she must have slept through (and by that I mean 10-5 with a bit of moaning and wriggling in between) for a total of 10 days! This was back when she was about 6 months old and since then we’ve had constant wake ups and 1-2 night feeds to contend with. The last few weeks have felt like we’ve had a newborn again and I’ve really felt like I’ve been cracking up through lack of sleep! 

I’m due to go back to work in January and dreading it (though for more reasons than sleep but that’s another story) and I’ve been so worried about how I’ll function on such little sleep.

We’ve tried everything; white noise, night light/no night light, increased feeds, teething gel/powder/liquid, and every other thing people suggest to us. But our child just does not like to sleep! 

If one more person says to me “sleep when she sleeps” I might scream. I get it, and in the early days I did, but when a baby who doesn’t sleep at night refuses to nap in the day for more than 10 mins in my arms, when do I sleep? And if she does nap for longer and I manage to get her napping in the cot, which we’ve had a few times recently, then I really need to clean, cook, so washing and all those other things that adults do! 

But here’s the miracle. Last night she slept through! Ok, so technically she did wake for a feed at 12am but then she slept until 6.A.M!! No 3am trek in the dark to try and soothe her back to sleep, bumping in to the banister because I’m so tired. No return trip at 3.30am and 4am and then sleeping with her for a bit to try and settle her. No 5.30am wake up because I just give up trying to get her off to sleep again. Hallelujah! It’s a Christmas miracle.

It’s amazing what a bit of sleep does. She happily played in her cot for 30 mins after she woke and I got a shower and washed my hair. We came down, had a bottle and a play and then I cooked myself some breakfast, poached egg on toast, and we’ve been out for a walk. I actually feel so much better and like I can get things achieved today.

What did we do differently? Nothing much, although due to her cold we put a bowl of hot water in the room and a calpol plug in. She also had 6oz of milk instead of the usual 5oz. Yesterday she had two really long naps. Does sleep breed sleep? Does a scented room help her sleep? Who knows but I’ll be doing the same tonight. I know it might be a fluke but I’m praying that I get a nice interrupted snooze tonight too.

What helps your little one sleep? If you’re struggling though lack of sleep, what helps you get through the day? 

Little Big Love

Becky xx