Ok so there is no doubt that the viral craze of #treeoflife pictures swimming around Instagram are beautiful. If you haven’t seen them, they show stunning artwork of mothers and babies bonding through a very natural thing, with trees connecting mother and baby through breastfeeding. However, in some people’s eyes, they are another example of how non breastfeeding mum’s are feeling guilt and shame. Hashtags like #breastisbest don’t help the matter! Does that mean that formula feeding mums don’t give their babies life and don’t have a bond with their baby?  Of course not!

From what I can gather, it started to support the #normalisebreastfeeding cause that many breastfeeding groups try hard to advocate. This always surprises me though, as honestly from my standpoint it is a totally normal part of life, to the point where formula feeding mums are made to feel inadequate by health professionals, the media and the breastfeeding army. Let me get one thing straight, when I use the term breastfeeding army, it’s not all breastfeeding mums, it’s the group of keyboard warriors who have their view and will not be tolerant or understanding of others. I respect all mums as, let’s face it, what ever choice we make we get criticised for it but I have an issue with those who purposely set out to make others feel bad. All of the breastfeeding mums I know would hate to think they’d upset or shamed anyone. They agree that however you feed your baby, as long as they are happy, it doesn’t matter. But not all breastfeeding advocates have the same compassion. I think it’s lovely that mums who breastfeed can share something so beautiful and feel empowered by it, but it’s the message it spreads to others that makes me wary of the craze.

Yes breast milk is amazing for babies but not everyone can feed this way. The argument that it’s natural and been around since the dawn of time is valid but historically babies would have died due to feeding issues without a wet nurse or formula. Society and medicine has moved on to allow healthy happy babies whatever the feeding situation!

I have fed Little every which way because she was born too early to feed orally. She was tube fed until she was ready to attempt oral feeding. We attempted breast feeding and fed bottled expressed breast milk and eventually formula. The one she had the most trouble and upset with was breast. So no breastfeeding is not best for every mum and baby. Fed is best and it always will be!

Formula feeding and still we have a connection and bond

What Little thinks to those who shame people for their choice of feeding

Back in the early days when she would take the breast

The oversupply of expressed breast milk I brought home from the hospital. I was a milking machine!

Big feeding a very tiny Little my ebm while we were still in hospital

Little with her NGT (nasal gastric tube) that she loved to pull out!

I have already seen some beautiful bottle feeding tree of life art work. I’m glad these have popped up as they show that no matter how your baby is fed, you still have a bond and give them life. I’d considered doing one from when I could breastfeed, then thought I could do a bottle feeding one, but then realised I actually don’t want to do one at all. Yes they are beautiful pieces of art, but my feeding journey can’t be summed up in a picture like that.

It is lovely to see the pictures, but before posting, consider the hashtags used and the wording of your post. Just because you breast feed or formula feed, doesn’t mean that it is best. We all need to support each other. Always remember #fedisbest

Have you made one of these pictures – either bottle or breast? If so did you consider the impact on others? Should we even have to consider it, or is it simply people being over sensitive? If you don’t breastfeed, how do the pictures make you feel?

I’m interested in open discussions on this but if you comment please be mindful that everyone is entitled to their own views. 

Little Big Love

Becky xx

My name is Becky and I’m an Instagram Addict!

Although I only started Little, Big and Me recently, I have blogged for a couple of years. I have always been a very occasional blogger and have tended to pick it up and put it down as I felt motivated. But, the one thing I’ve always kept up with is Instagram.

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I spend far too much time scrolling through people’s pages, liking and commenting on photos and replying to comments on my photos. I find I can get lost in those little squares sometimes and  I have my phone in my hand more than I should some days! Although its not all bad, Instagram is a form of social media that I find really positive (most of the time!)

There is a fantastic community of people on there who share stories, experiences and their lives. I first met an amazing community of women who were going through fertility issues. I was able to share my diary of my fertility treatment with a group of people who really understood. The support was invaluable, especially when people around me in ‘real life’ couldn’t understand. Many of those on the fertility journey have now become part of this fantastic community of parents that exists in Instagram too. Again it has become a place to discuss all things mum and see snapshots of life from some beautiful babies as they grow and develop.

I love to share parts of daily life and the fact that its so instant really helps. Unlike blog posts that need writing, editing, and links adding, among other things. I also really enjoy the comments and likes (I’m a bit of a like whore) from such a wide range of people. It enables conversations to open with people around the world, and closer to home too.

I’m lucky enough that I’ve actually met some lovely people through Instagram that I would call my friends. I’ve been able to connect with people in real life, through friendships made in squares of photos online!

So yes I’m an Instagram Addict, but it’s had a great affect on my life so far.

Here are some of my favourite Instgram photos I’ve posted:

 

 

As you can see, there is a bit of a theme! Well it is all about Little, Big and Me after all!

What is your Instagram username? Come follow me and give me a comment on a picture you enjoy.

Little Big Love

Becky xx

After taking a little break I thought I’d do a bit of a change of pace with my posts today. I have been trying to get myself out of a real funk recently and one thing that still helps is looking at our wedding album.

I didn’t think being married would change anything. I thought we’d bumble along the same with my just having the hassle of changing my last name. Honestly though, something has changed. I can’t really put my finger on what but it feels different. It feels secure. I don’t know if it was the nerves before the wedding that have now settled, but it’s a nice feeling.

I won’t go in to detail about the whole day as it would end up as a mammoth post but I loved planning the little touches and ended up with a look and feel that I was really happy with.

Pictures

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The theme was a sort of woodland/rustic/vintage vibe and it worked so well on a sunny day in a October.

Make Up

Make up wise I chose to do my own with help to get the light smoky look on the eyes. I am so glad I did my homework for a good base as I had a mega cluster of spots that popped up on my chin on the day so really needed the coverage! I went for Armani Luminous Silk in the end, as after LOADS of testers, it sat the best on the skin and photographed well with no flashback. I am obviously biased but I think it looks great in the photos!

I used:

Primer- Benefit Porefessional

Concealer – MAC Prolongwear in NW20 (a bit darker than the foundation shade I usually go for but it sits well on the skin)

Base – Georgio Armani Luminous Silk in 4.5

Bronzer – Collection Bronze Glow Matt Powder in Terracotta

Blush – No7 in Soft Damson

Eyes – Smashbox Eyeshadow Primer / Naked2 Palette / Benefit They’re Real Mascara / Sleek Eau La La Liner in Cocoa 327 / Sleek Brow Pencil in Dark

Lips – Vaseline / Sleek Eau La La Liner in Lingerie 214 / Bourjois Rouge Edition Lipstick in Beige Trench 02

Our photographer put loads more pics on his blog here if you want to see more amazing shots of the day (my sister may kill me as she hates the ones of her with no make up but I just love them all!)

Have any fellow bloggers/readers been married recently and still love looking at your pics? Are any of you getting married soon and can’t wait? As always comment below and let me know what’s in your head.

Becky xx

I’ve found it tricky to get myself in blog mode this week. I got lots of posts scheduled for the start of the week and planned to get some more done this weekend. I find that mood really affects what I do and a low mood has meant writers block!

I knew I needed to get out and get some fresh air and sunshine and was inspired by Ros over at dreamdays to get myself out to Hartsholme Park. It is a 2 min walk away from my house with a beautiful lake in the centre and several trails you can take so it is the perfect place for a stroll. We don’t go often enough but seeing the pics Ros took reminded me we needed to go more!

I walked around the lake and it gave me some time just breath in the fresh air and think. There is something about being out in the sunshine that makes you feel brighter.

I took the opportunity to take some pictures. The light was great to get some colour in the shots. I also have some new lenses for my iPhone camera that are supposed to add curvature to the picture and magnify the image. They were v.cheap and although they are not great I enjoyed playing with them. It got a little frustrating after a while to get the lense placed properly so it left some pictures with a blur but while I can’t afford a proper camera these will do! I do have this on my wish list now though 📷

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I enjoyed walking on my own while the hubby was at work and, although I don’t make resolutions, I do want to get out to the park more this year.

Do you have a favourite place to walk to clear your head? Or is getting out and active part of your new year, new you campaign? I’d really like to connect with more bloggers this year and appreciate reading others thoughts and ideas, so as always you know where to leave a comment 😊