What to really expect when you are expecting! 

When you’ve been trying for a baby for a long time, all you focus on is that little person you can hold in your arms. I’ve heard lots about being pregnant but nothing can prepare you for it actually happening. 

There are so many things happening to my body that I just didn’t realise would! I recently watched a new vlog from Mummy in the Know about what she didn’t expect from pregnancy and it made me feel like I wasn’t alone in facing things I hadn’t prepared myself for, so I thought I’d write some tips for those first time mum’s who, like me, weren’t really prepared! 

1. You’ll feel like you have a hangover all the time! 

I don’t know if it’s just me but since about 8 weeks pregnant I have felt like I am going through the worst hangover, without the fun of drinking! Dizzy, nauseous, tired and like I just want to stay in bed! At 17 weeks I think it might just be fading, but don’t want to get my hopes up just yet! 

2. They’ll tell you 12 weeks is some magical, feel better milestone. It probably won’t be! 

“You’ll feel better once you get to 12 weeks,” says just about everyone. I can tell you that for me, it is a big fat lie! 12 weeks came and went and I was still sick all of the time. And by all of the time I mean morning, afternoon and night! That leads me to another myth…

3. You’ll get a bit of ‘morning’ sickness. Prepare yourself – the title is misleading!

Why is it called this?! I know lots of people suffer from pregnancy sickness at different times of the day but I wasn’t prepared for quite how much sick could come out when you are hardly keeping any food down in the first place! I also was told be lots of people that it was different to a bug as once you’ve been sick you feel instantly better – I DID NOT! I felt sick all day and even after being sick, still felt sick! It seems to have subsided now and I really hope it doesn’t reappear. 

4. Be prepared for all sorts of aches and pains that you can’t help but worry about!

I know later in pregnancy women often mention how uncomfortable they are, but I didn’t realise it would start so early! I have aches and shooting pains in my stomach regularly, which the midwife keeps telling me is normal, and shooting pains through my lady bits and bottom, which again the midwife doesn’t seem the least bit bothered about! I find sleep difficult and that is before there is much of a bump! I guess I should prepare myself for hardly any sleep though! Even though people tell you it is all normal and only growing pains, if you are anything like me, you will still worry! 

Don’t get me wrong, I am over the moon that there is a little person growing inside me, but I would just like to feel a little bit normal again! I hope that the next few weeks will allow that now that some symptoms are dying down. 

Anyone else out there who has found pregnancy to be different from what they expected? Any tips on feeling better? Drop a comment below to share your thoughts. 

Becky xx


  1. December 12, 2015 / 9:11 pm

    All so true!!! I think the other big thing to learn is the dress and waiting does not stop with a positive pregnancy test!!

    • December 12, 2015 / 9:14 pm

      Absolutely workingwomensivf! So much stress still and I know once baby gets here the stress and worry will never end! But it will all be worth it 😍

  2. December 13, 2015 / 7:48 pm

    I’m so sorry to read how poorly you’ve have been with the pregnancy and still are. It is so funny how everyone experiences pregnancy differently. I did not really experience any of what you mention, but boy has heartburn been my very unwelcome friend from the very early days. I think for me I was surprised how early on I started to feel breathless and struggled to put on shoes and socks, and I don’t even have a particularly large bump!

    • December 13, 2015 / 7:59 pm

      Thanks – luckily it is starting to fade and I have definitely felt much better this week than I have in a long time so hoping it is coming to an end! I carry a bottle of Gaviscon with me at all times and it definitely helps. I’m with you on the feeling breathless front! It’s amazing how quick I lose my breath when doing simple things – thought it was just me being really unfit 😂

    • December 13, 2015 / 8:01 pm

      Also I’m sorry to read you have had to have a hospital stay. Pregnancy can be so scary and unpredictable!x

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